How To Stop Being A Possessive Partner? Sadhguru Answers

There is always some degree of possessiveness in every relationship. Still, there is a huge difference between desiring someone and wishing to own them. When it comes to coping with feelings of jealousy, couples sometimes fail. Possessiveness can ruin a romantic relationship and make partners feel suffocated. Spiritual master Sadhguru explains what causes excessive attachment in a relationship and how to deal with it.

“Don’t try to get past possessiveness. Try to keep something completely under control. Once you realise the pain that comes from trying to keep something under control in that way, that pain will cure you of being possessive. If you try not to be possessive, that won’t work. Because you’ve already tried, right? You’ve tried and lost, that’s why you’re asking me. Be completely possessive. Whether it’s your husband, your child, your house or even your dog, if you keep it completely to yourself, it will cause unbearable pain. Because it hurts so much that it heals you”, he said.

He further explained, “You can change what you’re holding onto if you want. But the longing or need to hold on to something is still not gone. You can hold something else instead of this. This is because your desire to hold on to something basically comes from an unfulfilling life experience. It comes from an incomplete consciousness.”

Sadhguru also stated that one shouldn’t attempt anything lightly, they should try thoroughly. If an effort is made thoroughly, they will know within 24 hours whether it works. A lifetime might be required to realise this if the attempt is only made lightly and sporadically. Similarly, if there are 24 qualities to understand, it might take 24 lifetimes to grasp them all. Half-hearted attempts won’t suffice. If one tries too hard, they’ll realise within 24 hours that it won’t work.